About Kim
Relationships are the common thread throughout my work
For almost ten years, I have been guiding people in the areas of relationships, connection and personal development. Individually, as couples and during retreats. One thing that continues to surface is the influence of patterns we can often recognize and understand very well, yet still find difficult to change.
Why do we lose ourselves in a relationship? Why do we pull away when someone gets too close? Why do we keep ending up in the same dynamics? And why can one person trigger something in us that another person leaves completely untouched?
These questions fascinate me.
I like to look beyond what is happening on the surface. At the beliefs and protective mechanisms we have developed, but also at the families we grew up in and the patterns we carry forward from them.
Because the way we connect today is shaped, in part, by how we once learned to connect.
From understanding to real change
My interest in this work comes not only from professional training, but also from my own experience.
I, too, discovered how big the difference can be between understanding a pattern and actually being able to change it. Over the years, this has led me to explore human behaviour and what helps us create meaningful change from a variety of perspectives.
My path began with meditation, yoga and body-oriented work. Breathwork and facilitating retreats followed later. Much of my work centred around themes such as connection, intimacy, awareness and our relationship with ourselves and others.
It taught me something that remains fundamental to my work today: we cannot solve everything by thinking about it.
But I also discovered that feeling alone is not always enough. Some patterns kept returning. Especially in relationships.
That eventually led me to family constellations and systemic work.
We are never separate from where we come from
Systemic work added an important dimension for me. Rather than looking only at you as an individual, it considers the larger systems you are part of.
We are all born into a family with its own history. It is there that we learn, often without realizing it, what love means, how close we can allow another person to come, which place we take and what we need to do in order to belong.
We carry much of this into our adult relationships.
A constellation can reveal what may be unconsciously influencing those relationships. Not to find an explanation for everything or to keep digging endlessly into the past, but to begin distinguishing: what belongs to then, and what belongs to now? What am I still carrying? And what do I no longer need?
That is where space for different choices can emerge.
My background
Over the years, my work has continued to deepen. Since 2018, I have guided individuals and couples through one-to-one sessions, workshops and retreats in the Netherlands and abroad. My background includes yoga, meditation, breathwork and body-oriented work.
In 2024–2025, I completed postgraduate and master’s-level training in Family and Organizational Constellations at Civas. My specialization is in family and trauma constellations and systemic guidance.
My approach is investigative and intuitive, while at the same time grounded and practical. I want to understand what is really happening and bring complex dynamics back to their essence.
Because ultimately, for me, this work is not about perfectly processing your past.
It is about becoming freer in how you live, love and connect today.